Whether you are the person who was broken up with, or the one who did the breaking up itself, it can be quite the shift from being a two-some to being a single all over again.
The truth is, there is no single secret way that one can get over a breakup. The amount of emotional pain can also vary by relationship and other things that are going on in life. However, there are a few things one can do to make the heartache fade.
Concentrate on You
It may sound cliché, but a silver lining to a breakup is that you are now allowed to be a little bit (or a lot) selfish. Take a class that you have always wanted to try, get a makeover, join a gym, take a trip or do anything that may have been something that you have put off because you were tied to someone else's life. In addition, it will further reinforce a sense of self-worth that tends to fall by the wayside in the midst of a really tough breakup.
Delete Him or Her
That’s right. Take that person off Facebook, Twitter, e-mail and your phone. It will remove the temptation to call at 1am and embarrass yourself. A clean break is always best, even if the pair of you decide to be “just friends” following the breakup. There needs to be a transition period where the both of you can get used to not being together anymore. Furthermore, it will spare the pain of knowing one person may be moving on from the breakup at a faster rate than the other. The deletion does not have to be permanent; it just needs to give one time to get used to being single again.
Grieve
Allow yourself time to grieve the relationship and fully absorb the loss of what it was. Failing to do this will mean that it will happen later and will delay the process of feeling better again. Try not to hide sorrow or heartache behind drinking and partying and pretending that you are okay. If you are not okay, it is fine. It is completely understandable to be emotionally distraught – feel the pain and then feel free to move on.
Reconnect with Friends and Family
Sometimes relationships can consume people. Use the breakup as a time to connect with other support systems in your life – like your friends and family. They know that this will be a tough time for you, and will most likely offer a shoulder to lean on while you are going through this process.
There is no one way to get over a breakup. Some take days to get over, whereas some can haunt you for months. While there is no tested and true guaranteed method, these tips can help to make the transition from being a twosome into being a single a little more smooth.
Rachel Walton - Rachel Zabrina Walton is a freelance writer and personal trainer based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. She graduated from the University of ...
